Jan 202017
 

This may be a bit Norman Peale-esque, but here goes…

I used to be an actor in New York City. One of my acting teachers was a really brilliant guy and he had great wisdom to share, primarily about acting but also about life. Here’s one of his lessons.

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He told a story about a man who brought a toaster to the Customer Service Department at Macy’s. The man was irate because his toaster wasn’t working. His face turned red and he yelled insults at the store clerk. He slammed his fists on the counter. He made a real scene. He even yelled curses at the toaster. The lady at the counter couldn’t understand his complaint. She was so offended by his tone that she had a hard time even listening to him. He made it impossible for her to help him, which, after all, was all she wanted to do.

Another man also brought a toaster to Macy’s that same day. He was perfectly pleasant to the lady at the counter. He used words like “please” and “thank you,” and he chatted with her about the weather. He explained to her, very nicely, that his toaster wasn’t working properly and he wished to return it, which he understood he could do under Macy’s 30-day return policy. He calmly showed her the part that wasn’t working. The lady was glad to help him and within just a couple of minutes had issued him a full refund, and she felt her day was brighter for having met the man, even though he had come to her with a complaint.

At the end of the story, my teacher said this:

Don’t argue. Make the argument.

You don’t need to roar like a lion or beat your chest like a gorilla. You’re a human being and you’ve got language. Use language to convey ideas. If you’re in the right, then your case will speak for itself; you just need to make the case clearly. If you need to use anger to get your way, that’s probably a sign that you’re in the wrong. Argumentum ad baculum is the refuge of the weak.

Arguing is putting up a fight in order to dominate. When you argue, you lose your cool.

Making the argument isn’t fighting at all, it’s simply using language to express facts.

In the face of trouble, when you’ve got to deal with conflict or potential conflict with others, just stay cool, be courteous, be cheerful, and let right ideas do the work for you.

Don’t argue. Make the argument.

 Posted by on January 20, 2017
Aug 092015
 

In the past few decades the USA has made great strides in terms of racial equality, women’s rights, and LGBT rights. We have our first black president. Our next president may just well be a woman. Gay marriage is now legal in all fifty states. Our country is becoming more open, more inclusive, kinder, and freer.

“Great strides” does not mean “problem solved.” Women still get paid less than men, especially women of color. Unarmed black people keep getting shot to death or otherwise mistreated by white cops.

A good barometer of where we’re at with civil rights may be the demographics of Congress. According to Pew Research the 114th Congress is the most racially diverse in history. But it’s still disproportionately white. Only 17% of Congress is non-white where 38% of the population is non-white. Women make up roughly 50% of the population but only around 20% of Congress. Only six members of Congress identify openly as LGBT, a little over 1%, when according to Gallup 3.8% of the population identifies as LGBT.

So we have room to improve. But this concept of equality for all—this dream of the feminists and the humanists and Martin Luther King—seems to be rolling onward and gaining steam.

Where do we go from here? Our circle of compassion expands ever outward, embracing more and more people in the group we call “us” and fewer in the group we call “them.” Who is next?

I hope that the next cause Liberal America takes up in a big way will be animal rights.

BOOM! I went there! I got talking about statistics and you didn’t know where I was going, and now suddenly I’m talking about animal rights, a subject you hate.

Animal rights! Ohhh here we go. Another sanctimonious, self-righteous vegetarian acting all superior.

Relax! I’m not asking you to stop eating meat. Animals make all sorts of useful and desirable products, and most of us have grown to depend upon these products. I’m not judging you for liking McDonalds. Animal research? It’s fine. Sea world? Go enjoy the show. Horse ranches? Ridem’ cowboy!

But if you’re a secular person, a humanist, a person who believes in making decisions based upon reason versus authority, please consider the following:

The idea that animals have no rights whatsoever is a religious one. In the Bible, Yahweh grants humans “dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” Christians once believed, and many still do, that humans have souls and animals do not. Animals are merely machines made from flesh. Our species is uniquely privileged with personhood. Animals are just things. Any use of animals we can think up is automatically justifiable. We are entitled to keep animals in whatever conditions are convenient to us without regard for their welfare.

This is an old-fashioned concept. It’s not scientific. We now know that we share a great deal of DNA with other animals, particularly mammals. We share similar nervous systems, similar brains. There’s no logical reason to grant members of our own species complete moral consideration but animals none whatsoever.

So the way we treat animals doesn’t make sense anymore. But people reflexively defend orthodoxy, whether it’s theism or racism or sexism or any other ism, and that’s never truer than with speciesism. We’re defensive about our dominion over animals.

There’s an argument to be made that humans have as much right to eat animals as animals have to eat each other. If lions eat gazelles why can’t humans eat cows and pigs and chickens and turkeys and, hell, gazelles?

I don’t have a response to that. I don’t think it’s my place to tell you you’re wrong for using animal products. We all express compassion toward animals in our own way, and it’s a personal choice.

But I do think the moment has arisen in human history when we can start to ask this much of each other: While the animals are alive, treat them humanely. That’s all animal rights is about. It’s just about asking our industries to treat animals as nicely as the average person treats animals in their daily lives.

Animals will continue to die for human benefit. I’m under no illusion that this will stop any time soon. But there’s no reason they must suffer. The way animals in our custody live and the way they die is important. Modern factory farming has got to change its ways.

The issue of gay rights was once fringe and is now mainstream. In the same way, I believe our society is ready to start taking animal rights seriously.

Sep 192013
 

Dan Barker was a fundamentalist minister, and a hardcore one at that. For many years he toured North America, convinced Christ would return any day and the world would end, trying to save as many souls as he could in the time remaining. Gradually he made his way to atheism. I just came across his 2010 speech to the Global Atheist Convention in Melbourne. He’s a great speaker and his story is compelling.

My favorite quote from the speech:

If the prodigal son is a parable and Adam and Eve are a metaphor then maybe God himself is just one huge figure of speech….
There’s no evidence for a god.
There’s no good arguments for a god.
There’s no coherent definition of a god.
There’s no good replies to the arguments against a god.
There’s no need for a god.

Check it out:

 Posted by on September 19, 2013
Aug 222013
 

This dude is cool.

Mike Aus was a Lutheran pastor in Texas who began having doubts about his faith. He eventually made the decision to leave it, which must’ve been incredibly difficult since as a pastor leaving his faith meant also leaving his job, his social network, and his sense of identity, and disappointing his peers, his congregation, and his family. He came out as an atheist in an interview on MSNBC in 2012. He writes an excellent blog, which I just discovered today. I’m enjoying catching up on his blog posts. His thoughts on prophets, faith, the Bible, and irreligious morality resonate with things I’ve written in Merrily Dancing Ape. As an ex-pastor trained in theology, he knows a ton about the Bible and has a fascinating perspective.

Check out the following talk he gave to the Humanists of Houston:

More stories about pastors transitioning from religion to free-thought can be found over at the Clergy Project.

 Posted by on August 22, 2013
Oct 012012
 

Are you a humanist? I think I am.

For a long time I supposed humanism was something sinister. I allowed the opponents of humanism to attach a boogeyman-ish stigma to it. Now, though, I see that if my own philosophy aligns with any other mainstream one, humanism is it.

But I still have reservations.

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For example: though I can’t think of a superior alternative, there is a real problem with the name. It’s obviously speciesist. If you came across a talking cat and asked her if she wanted to be a humanist, she’d have to reply, “PPFFFFFFT! I value all life, not just you humans. The only sensible name for such a philosophy is catism. I’m a catist.”

So what is humanism and do I agree with it?

The third incarnation of the Humanist Manifesto is posted prominently on the American Humanist Association website. The AHA claims it’s been signed by Richard Dawkins, Albert Ellis, the Amazing Randi, Michael Shermer, and Kurt Vonnegut. Impressive.

Below the fold, I shall present the manifesto with my commentary interspersed.

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 Posted by on October 1, 2012
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